about & disclaimer

My name is not Myra. I am not a nurse.

The Gimcrack is only a blog not a real place

my lover died from cancer on 2 september 2007. blogging is the one thing that really helps me deal with this loss.Β I don’t know when the pain will go away but writing helps me forget about it for a little while.

I live in (mostly) sunny sydney with my gorgeous gay son and his partner. every mother should try to have at least one gay son. they may grow up to be a hairdresser and their birthday gifts will always be tasteful. they will also never let you leave the house with lipstick on your teeth and they are usually very good at flower arranging. at least mine is.




Published on December 9, 2007 at 10:11 am  Comments (136)  

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  1. Dear nurse myra
    I am sitting in front of my favourite painting
    in my house by Stephen Birch.
    We were both at blackwattle studios in glebe during
    the mid nineties before it was pulled down
    and i bought this beautiful painting from stephen
    when i moved out of blackwattle

    I went to a couple of his shows and ran into him a coupla
    times last year.
    I only learnt of stephens death last night from
    mutual friends and i am just gutted. Had a good cry!!
    Talent, honest …you must miss him a lot. Love to you.

  2. thanks Mel. I still think of him every hour of every day

  3. Merry Christmas Myra… from me to You:

  4. hey thanks gabriel. hope it’s a good christmas for you x

  5. LOL, and you are an effin stunner in knickers! BB

  6. hi beaverboosh! I’ve just been over to your blog and had a good laugh. did you find me via Ian in Hamburg?

  7. Dear Nurse Myra,

    I love the website but on this occasion I am writing not just to thank you for the entertainment and wish you the best for 2008. No, I have in fact come to admonish you for your bad behaviour; mildly but in earnest. You are most welcome to use pictures from my educational website to titillate your readers, but please do acknowledge and credit any photos or content. I am sorry to say that if this behaviour continues, you may need to be taken in hand ….

    Doctor Laurie

  8. N.M you are a Superstar.
    Keep Shining.

  9. thanks AM x

    Dr Laurie: sincere apologies, I have sent you an email and I hope we can work this out asap as I did not realise your images were copyrighted. you have a wonderful website


  10. Dear Nurse Myra,

    You are very kind and as far as I am concerned this is already ‘worked out’. On re-reading, my message sounds more stern and less humorous that I had intended. I am of course in the AM camp. Keep up the good work (-:


  11. actually, it was the nicest admonishment I’d ever received πŸ™‚

  12. M –

    A kindred spirit? Definitely strong & passionate. You sure you’re not a surfer? πŸ˜‰

  13. I’m a net surfer. does that count ?

  14. don’t recall how I stumbled upon your writings but it’s just the tonic after a 90 hour week in hospital with mostly elderly patients, and the dermatologic wax casting from the 19th century frenchman were lovely. We no longer see advanced cases for most of these diseases.

    Your writings are beautiful, sad and hilarious, and so wryly accurate. I am so very glad to have found your site

    Dr Max

  15. ah only a medical person would write saying those french wax castings were lovely. I’m glad we agree πŸ™‚

    I don’t suppose you have a blog?

  16. Thought you’d enjoy this… “The Over-Educated Nympho”:


  17. thanks gabriel! I’ve bookmarked it and will scoot over there soon

  18. My new favourite random blog…congratulations.

  19. thanks Trey. do you have a blog too?

  20. Hi, I can’t find any contacts on your blog. Can I ask you to send a note for me? My email is in profile.
    Thanks, Chris

  21. amen to that! i’d love to have a gay son who’ll go shopping with me and find fabulous clothes for me. πŸ™‚

  22. would you like the recipe?

  23. hahaha! nurse myra, would you care give me some points on how it is to be a nurse for the elderly? i’m about to be “deployed” for work as a nurse in a nursing home (in US)… just things to REMEMBER when caring for them. πŸ™‚

  24. always wear a waterproof apron. always.

  25. hahaha! you never fail to amuse me. thanks for that very interesting advice. πŸ™‚

  26. you’re very welcome

  27. Hi – thanks for visiting me. Feeling your loss, I lost someone to that fucker cancer recently too – I won’t say “you’ll get over it”, because I don’t think we do. We just learn to cope, eventually. I like your attitude, though.

  28. even learning to cope is taking me a long time. I still have many days when I wish I were dead too. this is one of them but tomorrow may not be.

    thanks for dropping by. I like your post about privacy and surveillance

  29. Hey… are you okay?

  30. yes, thanks for asking Gabriel. guess I was just having a really bad morning when I wrote that. I’m think I’m coping ok again now. thanks x

  31. you might want to check out my latest post. i’m sure you could relate. keep writing though, it’s the most cathartic thing you can do, i know at the lowest points of my life i’ve usually been scribbling or typing, but keep that chin up and how old is your son? judging from corset friday you can’t be more than 25.

  32. hi kono, I checked out your post and you’re right about being able to relate. I still don’t have internet access at home so am desperately missing the distraction of blogging – I think it’s going to be another four days yet dammit.

    thanks for the compliment but even my son is over 25. Let’s just say I was a child bride πŸ™‚

  33. Hi Myra. I’ve discovered your quite amazing blog through
    your comment on Life’s a Beach re my film. If you’d like a copy, as I think you’d enjoy it, send me an address you’re comfortable with (to preserve your anonymity) and I’ll whip up a copy to you.
    And my deepest sympathies for your loss.
    Kindest regards

  34. hey thanks Mick. I’ll email you an address shortly

  35. Nurse Myra,

    Your blogposts have become much more detailed recently. Will you be turning your blog into a book of some kind?

    If so, I demand a signed first edition!

    Fondly, HB8

  36. I’ll get back to gimcrack patient stories again soon but I’m on a bit of a roll with research right now. the more you dig the more you find πŸ™‚

  37. Hi,

    It’s interesting to discover an entire blog based upon the spelling convention introduced by e e cummings, without uppercase orthography. For the moment, I’m not convinced that this convention is worthwhile, but I would be happy to examine a clear exposΓ© of the pros and cons.

  38. Oh… well it’s just my alter ego who does that. The real-life me is a grammar and punctuation Nazi. Even when I am text messaging I utilise capitals, semi colons etc.

    I think it started because nursemyra is one word in lower case, then it progressed from there.

    Glad you dropped by. I’m envious of your lifestyle πŸ™‚

  39. nursemyra, thank you. Things have been very sad in my life recently and way too serious. Your site made me laugh and laugh, which souplifting.

    My two teenage girls also looked at it with me and found it just as funny. We had a lovely family bonding time, looking at ‘olden days sex toys and other stuff’ together.

    Hmmm, that doesn’t sound like the average family’s way of spending quality time together, but then again, they are not your average girls, I’m not the average mother, and it was pure gold for us.


  40. Hello Myra,

    A very curious blog (in a good way). Hope you like the cd’s you bought from me at the markets on Sunday.
    Thanks for the card, I’ll be back.



  41. hey James, thanks for dropping by. most of the cds I bought from you I will use as prizes for one of my competitions.

    not Moo You Bloody Choir though – I’m saving Augie March for myself πŸ™‚

  42. You have a very unique and a curious blog.May you have a wonderful life ahead, and I will be around to know more and more.:)

  43. Hi there,

    Just stopping by to check out your blog after you commented over at my place. I’ve seen you around other blogs, but never visited here myself. Your content is…unique! I was quite entertained this morning, though unprepared for some of the images. I am NOT a prude, I must say…I like blue!




  44. hey WC, I’ve just checked out your blog and No, you’re not a prude πŸ™‚

  45. Dear Myra: Many thanks for the oral sex tutorial link. My wife should absolutely read this. And the next summer Olympic games should be moved from London to Hoboken, New Jersey.

    Here’s something I learned even before I was married: there is no joy in watching someone perform an act they are loath to do. It isn’t erotic. It’s sad.

  46. see you in new jersey at the games then πŸ™‚

  47. pic for your site

  48. hey thanks Dr Howard – great pic

  49. Felicidades, cariΓ±o!

  50. muchos gracias my spanish canandian friend πŸ™‚

  51. Sending hugs …

  52. thanks for remembering Az. and for the card x

  53. http://www.victoriana.com/zoe/

    victorian corsets

  54. great site. and not one I’d seen before either – thanks!

  55. I have a gay dad and gay sister– I would probably enjoy having my gay dad if he wasn’t missing in action… he sure knew how to help me pick out clothes.

    And my sister is the best.

    I hope this blog is as therapeutic for you as mine has been for me– I’m sure losing your partner was unbearable. For me, the internet/blog community has helped me get through the last year and I hope it/they have helped you too.

    Cheers, Laura

  56. Yes blogging has been my therapy, and the friends I’ve made through it – virtually and in real life (here’s looking at you daisyfae) have been amazingly supportive.

    I’ve just spent the last 20 minutes drooling over your food blog, deviously delicious indeed πŸ™‚

  57. Wonderful idea behind the website. Humor really is the best medicine. Cheers to you!

  58. thanks Liam xx

  59. in French though

  60. Merci!

  61. Stumbled across your blog while doing a search for “pink and white corset” and I stuck around to enjoy the posts. Had a few good laughs at some of the posts & I enjoyed looking at your legs, so you can be sure I’ll be back.

    Sorry for your loss.

  62. Thanks Brian. I think next Friday’s corset shot may be purple. Haven’t made up my mind yet….

  63. Purple’s fine with me.

  64. I’m pretty sure, since everything about Australia is backwards, you guys celebrate Christmas in July… maybe June. But just in case… Merry Christmas Nurse Myra. And a very, very happy New Year.

  65. thanks Gabriel! the Bing Crosby was unexpected πŸ™‚


  66. I must say, you have a VERY interesting blog! πŸ™‚ Thanks for the visit today and for the comment.

  67. Toni, you have some wonderful photos on your blog. Also, like me, I see your mother leaves comments. You might like to warn her about the gimcrack in case she accidentally visits here one day…. πŸ™‚

  68. I think we’re safe with my mom. She’s been looking at my blog for months and just recently figured out that she could look at the comments and comment herself. I don’t think she’ll figure out the names contain links. πŸ˜‰

  69. So… what’s 2009 like so far? Have we gone back to the moon yet?

    Happy New Year Nurse Myra, I hope you have a pleasant buzz on. Hey… if Australians live in the future how come you’re not all lottery winners? Actually, could you check the Ottawa Citizen website, the lottery numbers for tomorrow’s draw should be up.

  70. Hi Myra – I was a great friend of Stephen’s in the 80s and 90s and have only just heard of his death. Could you email me? I am shocked and upset and I hope this does not rake up the embers of your grief,

  71. Thanks Peter. I’ve emailed you, let me know if you received it.

  72. You are pure sweetness! You are going straight to the blogroll!

  73. I love the part about your gay son. My best to all of you! You are the sweetest mom ever!

    I added you to my blogroll a long time ago. I don’t know if you are aware of this. Keep up the great work on your blog!

    Thomas πŸ™‚


  74. thanks mynooch and Tom

  75. I love reading your comments on other blogs so I thought I would stop by…So sorry about your lover–hopefully the pain is more bearable now. Your statement about your son makes me fondly remember the movie “The Birdcage”. Every gay man I have ever met has been wonderful, caring and sensitive.
    Keep writing.

  76. hi becky, thanks for the comments, there’s no link to your name so I guess that means you don’t have a blog of your own?

    I don’t think the pain is becoming more bearable yet but I’m getting better at distracting myself

  77. Nurse I don’t know how to make my name go to my post–I just started it so there is little posted so far. One day at a time. MTAE found it but I don’t know how.
    Thanks for the Fool Moon warning–will mark my calender…But you killed my excuse for current craziness…thanks alot =)

  78. Becky, what’s the name of your blog and who is MTAE?

  79. Nurse-it shows up as hisqueen.wordpress.com–
    MTAE=morethananelectrician–I thought I saw him post on your site once..

  80. Hi There Nurse Myra,

    Thanks for dropping by..I will be back to linger longer.


  81. You must know your local suburbs! I’m going to delete the comment you left me for privacy, I’m guessing you don’t mind. So are you my neighbor??

    practically πŸ™‚

  82. A few years back, when I ran my website, Avery Ant, I made a cyber friend who had lost her husband and soul mate. She had a website that was dedicated to his memory. It was about their time together. For her, the site was, of course, very cathartic and ultimately very helpful. In time, it took her through her dark tunnel to the other side. The side where things start to look better. I hope your fabulous blog does the same.
    All best.

  83. Thanks Alantru. I’m still on the dark side of the tunnel but I hope to see sunshine again one day

  84. Hi Nursey poo
    Just thought I’d stop in and say hi as i’ve been away for a bit working on a site for ‘Eua island.
    Hope all is well with you and yours.

  85. hi fevah, been wondering what happened to you xx

  86. I like the site very much. Would love to go down… and dig opals.

  87. Hi there Nurse Myra,
    Thank you for the visit, just returning the favour. My my, what an interesting site you have :). I am sure to back for a little peak.

    • So a peek gives rise to a peak?

      • Glad you spotted that, I did, just as I clicked submit. My mind must have been elsewhere πŸ™‚ . OK, I haven’t been to Singapore for awhile but I did find a blog that will make your stay FUN.

      • Yes, I’ve been reading angryangmo since I decided to go, I think that’s where I found out about The Clinic. Thanks for looking for me…… πŸ˜‰

      • Yeah, unfortunately many of the places I would recommend are no longer there. I do know it is illegal to bungee jump there, so don’t be doing anything too kinky!

  88. I thought I’d done this before, maybe I got spammed?

    HELLO from all the way up here.

    • Hi Dave – yes you left a comment on one of my posts (it mentioned you were an ex psychiatrist I think) recently but I can’t remember which one. It’s still there though, you didn’t get spammed.

      • That makes a change from some venues…

  89. A belated happy birthday! Having been on holiday most of this month I didn’t look through my daybook to catch up until yesterday. Hope you had a wonderful day.

  90. I just found your blog..it’s great..I’ll add you to my blogroll

    the dolls point blogger

    • Thanks Sean, I like your photos

  91. Hello, dear nurse. I’ll be back.

  92. May GOD Bless!!! Mark

  93. I’m reading all your comments and I’m proud of you! I just want to say I told you you could do it, and now you have. I am even a little envious.


  94. I have become aware that we have both been mauled by life manifesting as “her”. Life, eh?


    • Hi gg, welcome to the gimcrack. I’d like to visit your blog too but it appears to be password protected

      • The blog is merely a front to allow me to comment, sorry!

  95. Nurse My – Did I miss your birthday?? Happy belated. I love your bio!!

    • Well fancy meeting you here VaGB. Currently you appear to be the funniest woman in the blogosphere, I’m thinking you too should come on the next holiday I take with daisyfae and dolce πŸ˜‰

  96. Hi NurseMyra,

    I LOVE your blog. I was updating a post of mine and wanted to use a photo – I was on google and the photo I wanted to use ended up being one on your website. I have linked back the photo to your blog and also put your blog address under the photo and wanted to make sure this was ok. (e.g., when ppl click on the photo it comes directly to your blog) Check it out. If you have any concerns just let me know.

    Keep blogging!

  97. Dear Nurse Myra,

    My mother was named Myra and she was a nurse. She died over 5 years ago of cancer; she had been fabulously beautiful and thin in the 1950s, and part of that image required smoking. So it goes.

    I love your blog and wish you the very best.

  98. I’ve always said that I’d love to have a gay son. My ex is gay, my best friend is bi.. a gay son would be the perfect addition. Plus, he wouldn’t feel excluded seeing as I intend to have daughters mainly.

    Looove the history on your blog. Sylvia Brett etc. Very interesting…

    • So you want the whole trifecta?

  99. u are lovely! glad to have come across you. i love writers who love writing who write for therapy and escape! escapism is under-celebrated! πŸ™‚ blessings.

  100. What a fortuitous accident to find your blog. I have thoroughly enjoyed lurking and learning at your site. You have an unique gift that I hope you will continue to share.

  101. I write for therapy too and really think sometimes it is the only way I have stopped myself from going insane over the years. I can however only aspire to your level of greatness. There’s so much to explore here and I could be busy for hours.

    I am sorry that you lost someone so dear to you. I get cross when people talk of closure. There is no such thing. You don’t ever forget but eventually you somehow learn to live with and around the absence. I hope you are having more good days than bad now.

    • Thanks Melbo. Can you leave me your blog link?

  102. Thank you for subscribing to my blog! (I really am excited about it).
    I have always wanted my very own gay. I fantasize about it. You can read about here:
    A gay son, however, would be my wildest dreams come true!

  103. Dear Nurse Myra,
    I hope all is well with you. I love your blog as I find it entertaining and will keep on coming back!

  104. Like your honesty mixed with humour – and look forward to reading more of your blog

  105. Haven’t read any of your stuff here, but love you over at the Good Greatsby.
    Oh, and the con my wife and I met at? I was introduced by her gay friend, AFTER he hit on me. If you want, I’ll give you the whole story – it’s a hoot.
    Looking forward to much great stuff! πŸ˜€

    • Do you have a blog John?

      • Not as of now. A number of various “blog buddies” keep insisting I should write one. As I’ve said elsewhere, I’m a “reactor”, feeding off other people’s ideas And lacking a job, kids, or much of a life anymore, I’m not sure where I’d draw the inspiration. I might take a page from my buddy Mark over at The Idiot Speaketh, and maybe do some reflections on my varied past as a World War 2 re-enactor, Trekkie and conventioneer, amateur photographer, racetrack corner worker at Road America in WI, and avid tourist, among others.
        By the by, if your Trekkie friends ever went to conventions, ask them if they heard of a fanzine publisher by the name of Bill Hupe. We were friends with them, and lived with them for a while right after my migraine-induced health crash 10 years ago. Bill often got to Oz and NZ, and had several friends he’d stay with while “down under”.

  106. My friends are HUGE fans but I don’t think they’re the convention type

  107. I love what you say about your son! So adorable!

  108. Thanks for stopping by and visiting πŸ™‚

  109. Why hello Nurse Myra,

    I’m not quite sure how I stumbled across your blog…. late night procrastination can lead you in wonderful directions!
    But I’m glad I did, it tickles my brain cells like nothing else. Am going to follow your blog with glee.

  110. First, thank you for the blog comment. Second, you have something really unique going on here. Usually when I read a new blog, it doesn’t seem very ‘new’, but I don’t think I’ve come across anything quite like this yet. Looking forward to more in the new year. Take care.

  111. Hello, I wrote an email to you. Please let me know if you received it. Thank you, Nurse Myra.

    • I did, and I sent you a reply xx

  112. A fine and wicked introduction, and there is nothing wrong about being artistic, I mean even I can arrange the flowers you know? πŸ™‚ Have an excellent rest of weekend Nurse Myra and be good too, if you like I mean? πŸ™‚ lol

    Call in for a Skeleton and Vampire surprise one of these evenings but do bring along a few sharpened stakes and a wooden mallet just in case…


  113. I stumbled upon your blog and quite enjoy it! I’m going to follow it, because your just cool, really cool.

  114. I have just sent you an invitation my friend,
    the skeletons are missing you and the local
    Zombie catcher is getting all excited about
    you calling back inside my Space, yes I told
    him that you weren’t really a Nurse but he is
    still getting hot and bothered… don’t worry I
    will sort him out before you call in for a bit,
    I mean for some, I mean… Well you know
    what I mean and I hope that you like the
    new look also πŸ™‚

    Have a fun rest of week Nurse Myra πŸ™‚

    Androgoth Xx

  115. This little blog is certainly off the beaten track. I’m just someone who probably has no business commenting here. Anyway I enjoyed my little romp thru your blog

  116. Just read your Mary Blandy article – liked it. FYI most of the links are broken. Hope you aren’t any more. x

  117. Dear Nurse Myra,
    I only just become one of your outpatients and really appreciate the informative on-line information service. Thanks, John

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